Last night, I had a clear dream that lasted seconds, but had a wealth of information. In my dream, I was on the phone with a friendly acquaintance. You know, another mom from school, baseball, and other casual places, but not a person I would normally have a chat with over the phone.
She was upset, but we aren’t good enough friends for me to pry, but in my dream, I pried anyway. She admitted that she just got some bad news and was so sad.
She never told me what her bad news was, but somehow, I just knew it was about Cancer. I started rambling on advice to her, as if I was an expert on Cancer. (Realistically, I know what it is like to CARE FOR someone with Cancer, but I am far from an authority on what it is like to have Cancer. I am not an expert by any means.)
Anyway, the advice I gave her was probably something I need to hear.
In my dream I said:
1. Accept – This is not just going to go away. Accept this beast into your life and fight like Hell.
2. Receive – People are going to be sad about your situation and want to help. It’s important to swallow your pride and receive their generosity. This battle is not about being strong, but getting through it. Receiving help is not weak. Enjoy the blessings as they come in, because each one sent with love. Receive the love you will feel from friends, family, acquaintances, and possibly even strangers.
3. Ask – Once again, there will be times when you have to ask for help. No one wants to need help, but it’s Ok. God places people in our lives at times for specific reasons. We are not meant to do anything alone, which is why we look for mates, live amongst our peers, and be with our families. No one fights alone. We are not alone. Ask for help when you feel alone.
Those are all of the pieces of advice I gave this woman in my dream. However, if the conversation was real, and the alarm didn’t go off, I might have also told this person other things to help her.
5. Seize the moment – when the person you love is sick, and you realize that every day has a number, you need to remember that chores will always be there to be done. There will always be more work to do. But when the person fighting Cancer feels good, you need to embrace that moment. Gather the kids and make memories. I have learned to always stop to give a hug, lay quietly, or say “I love you.”
6. Live each day in the present. Today is the only day you know how to live, don’t try to live in any other day. Turn to God when that feels impossible. He will get you through today.
I have to admit, I awoke today with a new sense of peace. I have been replaying this dream in my head all day. I think I needed to hear, think, and ponder the advice.
I thank God for giving me this dream. While it was in my own head, and one could argue I knew it all along, I believe with my heart and soul that the dream was a message. I can happily say, with a peace in my heart, for today, the message was received.