To the People of the Internet,
I’ve got an insight I want to share with you. Next week is a new year, and many of you are counting the days until this year is over. However, deep down, we all know that it is not 2016 that is responsible for the “bad luck” many people seem to be feeling these days.
Don’t get me wrong, there are things to be sad about, but they are not exclusive to this year. Maybe you’re upset that the election did not go your way. There were many truths that came out about our society, our system, and those all around us. Maybe you feel worthless as we hear about countries being bombed, terrorists controlling, with so many innocent people having nowhere to go. Gun violence, racism, and crazy leaders are frustrating, sad, contribute to the worthlessness.
Or maybe you are a person who is upset by all of the celebrities that died this year: Muhammad Ali, Alan Rickman, George Michael, Alan Thicke, Carrie Fisher….the list is long.
I know some of you are joking as you blame the year. Others are truly thinking that when Sunday morning comes, bringing in a new year, that somehow life will be better or different. Giving money to protect Betty White from dying won’t keep her alive, because someday, she will die.
I hate to tell you, 2017 won’t be better. Our problems will not be solved at the stroke of midnight Sunday morning. In 2017, people will continue to die. Government officials will continue to make decisions that we don’t like. Accidents will happen. Mental illness and drugs will take lives too soon. Businesses will still be corrupt. Hurricanes, earthquakes, and other natural disasters will still destroy towns and kill innocent people. Bad, violent, and hateful things will still happen, just like they’ve been happening since the beginning of time.
We can be sad as we face the loss of control we might have felt this year. However, I have to tell you, actually being in control of whether you live or die is not real. Anyone can die at any time for whatever reason; it can happen to us or those we love dearly. We don’t remember that, until we are faced with it. Until that life defining moment of unwanted news or a terrible event happens to us, we do not understand that while we choose how we live, we don’t always get to pick our futures. The saying that life is gift is not a just a cheesy saying but a truth to remember as you live for today.
Speaking of death and loss, you might be sad that the world lost a legend, but you are not as sad as their families. I’m not saying that your feelings aren’t valid, because they are. You get to have your feelings. Please realize that in a week, six months, or five years from now, you might be reminded of their death. You might even shed a tear or two.
However, those who love them, lived with them, depended on them, will miss them everyday. They will remember their death constantly because their lives drastically changed the moment they died. Those who truly lost the person they loved will never forget. The loss will be a part of them forever.
The rest of us, we feel sad about what might have been. However, whenever we want to remember them as we knew them, all we have to do is pop in a DVD and enjoy the show. We can speculate the projects they might have done, but that’s not the same as actually losing them.
Go ahead: look forward to a new year. Celebrate new possibilities, but can we all agree that bad things happening in our world is not because it’s 2016. Bad things happen because life is temporary, people are human, and our world is faulted.
One last thought: if you are looking forward to 2017, what actions will you take to make it better? We can wish for a better future, but action will actually make it a better place to live.